I feel like a hypocrite for even penning these thoughts to paper considering I speak all over the country to young people and dedicated my book to talking about being well rounded and being a complete person. But this is a truth that cannot go unspoken or unrecognized.
One of the toughest times of my life was when my father died in 1997. While he had enough virtues to fill Memorial Stadium, like everyone else, he had his flaws. When I spoke at his funeral, I quoted Henry David Thoreau from Walden where he wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” I knew then and it increases now that my father was absolutely desperate to see success in my brother, sister and me. He was desperate to exorcise some demons and he was desperate to be reflective of the commitment he made to his faith and his family.
My father always talked about the fact that necessity might be the mother of invention but that desperation can be a great motivator to success. When I think back through the little bit of success I have been lucky enough to have in life, much of it came due to the fact that I was desperate.
Many of our heroes, fictitious and factual, came through routes of desperation.
In the story/movie Hoosiers, you start with a coach desperate to rebuild a reputation as a coach and a person. You also have an alcoholic who is desperate to kick the habit and to rebuild a relationship with his son. Throw on top of that a small town in rural Indiana that is desperate to matter and you get a storyline that rolls.
In the movie and real life story of Dan “Rudy” Ruettiger, you have a main character that is desperate to get to Notre Dame. In a storyline that I’m sure made his unsupportive family ashamed of itself, he was so desperate that it encouraged other people to be desperate for him. He was desperate to not work in the steel mill, desperate to make good on his dream and desperate, more than anything, to prove people wrong.
In my favorite sports movie, “Rocky,” the fictitious story is desperate enough with a local guy from the neighborhood showing the ultimate example of victory in defeat by just wanting to go the distance with the champion. The real desperation was found in Sylvester Stallone’s fight to get the movie produced with him as the actor. After being turned down over and over, he finally found someone that liked the movie but wanted Robert Redford to play the role of Rocky. It was Stallone’s desperation to play the feature role and to live out his dream or being an actor that gave us Rockys 1–4 and First Blood.
Two years ago there was desperation all over Austin, TX. Head Coach Mack Brown had lost to Oklahoma yet again. There was seemingly mounting pressure to make some changes to the offensive coaching staff that he refused. Brown fought off the dogs, the donors and media but was desperate to prove he made the right decisions. There was desperation in whether the Texas program was indeed heading into the right direction with an attainable moderated goal of just a conference championship.
You had players in 2005 that were desperate.
The much maligned four-year starter Cedric Griffin, who had taken way more criticism than he deserved but was looking to increase his draft status and constantly played his game with something to prove and a chip on his shoulder.
Michael Huff was the guy with track speed that had to learn to be a physical football player and was desperate to play football at the next level.
Aaron Ross had already shown his desperation by just finally just getting to the 40 acres.
Limas Sweed was desperate to evolve from a blocking tight end in high school to the kid from Washington, TX that could make good at the flagship university in the state of Texas.
You had a team that was desperate to do something significant. For all of the recruiting rankings, Top 5 starts and blowout wins, the football program still had so much to prove to the fans, the media, to itself and to the awards cabinet that lay empty.
Finally you had a young man at the quarterback position with almost the same thinness of skin as his coach that was desperate to prove that he was a quarterback, could pass the ball and could lead his Longhorns to victory.
Dick Schapp once compared Wilt Chamberlain with Michael Jordan and said that Wilt Chamberlain had all of the advantages being so far ahead of his time but he didn’t dominate the way he could have. He in essence rejected victory and played small at times. Michael Jordan on the other hand rejected anything but victory.
That was Vince Young.
Where does this desperation come from? As sad as it is, many times that desperation comes from not having many other options.
My father had lived most of his life with much of it, over 20 years, spent on his hind parts driving for AC Transit, the bus system in Oakland. He was desperate because he couldn’t do it himself but wanted the education and the spoils that go with it for his children.
Sylvester Stallone was desperate to be an actor.
Aaron Ross was desperate to rise above clerical errors and live out his dreams.
Vince Young was desperate, more than anything, to win.
For that moment in time for the stars and some of the staff with that 2005 team, desperation ruled the day because there were not many other options.
There was not medical school, graduate school, hybrid programs for masters degrees or even jobs if some things didn’t turn out different. You had players, in some cases, relying on a life in football because medical school and a future as a CEO were not in their framework.
That is the desperation of keeping a job, making a life and capitalizing on, as sad as it is, some folks’ one shot at being able to find extensive levels of success that brings about the courage, character and characteristics of a champion.
The realist in me knows that operating a life outside the confines of desperation is the better way to live and even Thoreau later in the same paragraph wrote, “But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.”
While it is awesome on so many levels that players are cooking meals, looking forward to careers in media and in graduate school with eligibility left, this team may not have to mix of talent, players, coaching and desperation it takes to win championships.
The fact that knowledge of that bothers some people, including me, may say something about us and our exaggerated desire to win.
Everybody likes to win but not everybody likes what it takes to get there.
Just something to think about.